“Boyhood, like measles, is one of those complaints which a man should catch young and have done with, for when it comes in middle life it is apt to be serious.”

-P.G. Wodehouse, “The Adventures of Sally”
copyright 2017 Andrews McMeel Syndication

This quote is from a fictional work, written humorously; not seriously intended but having three living boys of my own, it still makes me want to defend boys and boyhood. Male-hood. God help me, yes, I’m going to defend it.

Boys have a “different” energy.

They lead from their heart and instinct, even though society would have us believe they do not, claiming they’re mostly logic and don’t understand feelings like female humans do.

But Dario Nardi reminds us that

“There are over eighty known hormones.
Almost all affect personality.
At least seven vary greatly with gender .”

When it comes to testosterone – “men produce ten times more testosterone than women, so even low testosterone men have more than any woman.” 

Psychologically,
testosterone promotes:
aggression,
risk-taking,
anxiety
or energy
that may lead to
poor concentration,
assertiveness,
and
a natural self-confidence.

All these things create a more instinct driven being, less hampered by forethought sometimes then its female counterpart.

This makes for many misunderstood differences between the biological sexes, which gets “boyhood” unfairly characterized as too loud, too aggressive, too everything, when they’re not “wrong” or “bad” so much as being what they are biologically engineered to be.

It gets boyhood unfairly characterized as a “misfit toy” in our society and educational system instead of celebrated for all the amazing gifts it brings to the table before adulthood and society dampen it into a flickering shadow of its former self instead of a the shining beam of energetic creativeness it can be.

I find it interesting that in a patriarchal society, male hood is denigrated. It’s denied that it possesses many of the same positive traits that women possess – such as creativity (which in boys is more frequently viewed as “mess making”, plus all the awesome traits that are unique to testosterone filled boys who are, at the beginning of their life journey, absolutely filled and brimming over with a joy of living life to its fullest!

Many boys are boisterous and ever moving rather than sitting still and listening, following. They were born to forge ahead into the world, and they have their own larger than life style of doing things.  

So you must prepare to buy new reading glasses when they love you.

Because they actually break things with their spontaneous bear hugs around the head or where ever they can reach you at the time. Which I don’t dare complain about – I know how lucky I am to be the recipient of such ferocity. It’s just a bit shocking when it happens, is all.

*HUG!*

*CRACK!*

And there you are. Broken glasses.

See those crumbs there on my pretty Tinkerbell dresser?  Littlest one knew the vacuum was out of commission so thought he’d crumble a stale hot dog roll. On my dresser. In MY bedroom. For Fun. And no where else would do.

So if you’re not prepared – going into BoyWorld can take you by surprise. Even when you ARE prepared it takes you by surprise sometimes!

Boys are walking into the bathroom to find the sink, floors, walls splattered with mud like a brown murder crime spree scene, after it was just so nice the minute! before!! Literally – 60 seconds before!!! That other moment in time when you left it, thinking it was safe.

The reason?

Something or other to do with Worm’s house. Worm needed water or his house need cleaning or some such thing? Couldn’t be done outside for some unknown reason. My house didn’t matter. But Worm’s house? PRIORITY!!!!! 

Another boy loved his worms when he was smaller too and has come inside after playing with so much dirt on him that it was actually UP HIS NOSE and IN HIS EARS.

Two days after the reading glasses snapped, the worm house cleaner jostled my arm while I was putting my contacts in. One contact lens didn’t make it. Boys are not  needing reading glasses anymore because you can see up close just fine with no contacts at all in your eyes.

Boys are having to do more dishes than what you started with, after they have “helped” you do dishes. But!!! boys are also finding out that baby oil will clean that stock pot you scorched so bad you thought it was going to have to be thrown out!

The Worm House Cleaner figured that one out, with one of his science experiments.

That he conducts.

While Not Doing the Dishes.

 

Boys are making mornings hilarious tottering around in your work pumps saying “Mommy how do you WEAR these?????”

Or jumping up and down on your bed in one of your slips singing “I”m a little princess, I’m a little princess!” And by 8 pm at night – they are STILL jumping up and down on the bed, full of energy!

Boys are all “I’m cooking cheese, Mommy!”

Mommy: (OH CRAP!!! GETTING UP FAST!!!!) “WHERE are you cooking cheese, honey?”

Boy: “In the fire.” *so pleased and proud*

Mommy: FAST WALKS TO SEE BECAUSE SHE KNOWS HOW THIS GOES.

Boy: “See? I smashed the cheese on the grate (OF THE GAS FLAME HEATER) and it’s cooking!”

Boys come in from outside and inform you that “I need something sharper than this, but still safe.”

Boys casually inform you when they are 19 or 20 years old, that they used to speed around on top of car roofs with their friends.

For FUN. 

Okay, so maybe we don’t want to see middle aged men acting like boys.